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Should Anyone Be Jobless?

Vanessa Evans reached her mid-thirties, bored with her job as a paralegal. She had been promised more responsibilities, but more young, fresh-from-law-school attorneys were added to the staff. Finally realizing that her job was a dead end, she began taking stock of what she wanted to do with the rest of her life.

Somehow, she knew that becoming an attorney with the prospects of handling divorce suits and debating property line disputes was not for her. Vanessa was told by a job counselor that she was “getting to the age where she would be hard to place” and that she had just about reached her potential income level in the job where she was. The counselor urged Vanessa, at age 33, to be happy and stay put.

I wonder how many of us that has received this kind of advice in the past, when your parents, teachers, mentors and other experts told you the things you can do and the things you cannot do. Who is better placed to tell you what is possible and what is not? Who knows the power and beauty of your dreams more than you? How did Vanessa react to the advice of the job counselor? Let’s find out.

Angrily, Vanessa left the office, refusing to be limited by the tunnel vision of a job counselor. So what did she want to do with the rest of her life? She had many capabilities, but Vanessa couldn’t decide what she did well enough to make a career out of it. Finally calming down, the determined woman decided to start from square one. What had been her best subject in school? The answer was English. She began evaluating the career choices.

Teaching held no appeal, nor did advertising. It came down to two choices: Vanessa could either read other peoples’ work, or write her own. When she made the conscious commitment that she should be a participant in life, rather than an observer, Vanessa went back to night school and polished her writing skills. Before long, she was happily earning her living as an author.

If you take inventory of your talents, the skills you possess or the skill you can acquire, it will amaze you what will be the outcome.

I still don’t believe anyone should be jobless. There are things to do. Convert that hobby of yours and you could be on your way to building an empire.

All you need is the courage to start small and the discipline to stay focused until you achieve greatness.

It is in you!

You Can Change the World

James Watt was born on January 19, 1736 in Scotland, in the small port of Greenock near the mouth of the River Clyde. His father is a trained carpenter and can build anything, from furniture to ships. Mr. Watt’s fine business sense and skills brought good money into the family’s home. Although not rich, he and his wife Agnes were comfortable. They needed that comfort, for their home life together was blighted by sadness. Agnes had baby after baby, and they all died.

When James was born, she re-doubled her efforts to protect her baby from the dozens of illnesses that threatened children then. This time, she succeeded and James – a thin, weakly little boy – survived. But his ailments survived with him. All through his childhood, he suffered from migraines and dreadful toothaches, and they condemned him to a sort of double life. One day, he’d be talkative, friendly, interested in everyone and everything around him; the next, he’d lost in a haze of pain.

He was obviously bright but, at first, his migraines stopped him attending school. So his parents – themselves highly intelligent – started educating him at home. Agnes taught him to read; her husband, busy though he was, made time to give him lessons in writing and arithmetic. He also gave him a small carpentry set; armed with miniature saws and chisels, the boy took all his toys to pieces, put them together again, and then invented new ones.

James spent a childhood as happy as his troubled health would allow. Watt learned everything about his father’s business and by mid-teens, his mind was made up. He wanted to be a maker of scientific instruments, not a carpenter nor a shipwright.

In 1754, he left home to acquire more training in Glasgow. Later, he was over-worked, under-nourished and rejected until he met Joseph Black, a hugely-distinguished scientist who’d just been appointed professor of chemistry of Glasgow University. Black arranged things so that Watt could set up shop in the university grounds. And they made it official by giving him the title of “Mathematical Instrument Maker to the University”. This was all the support Watt needed to achieve his dream. He eventually invented a new improved steam engine.

His steam engine was faster, cheaper and more powerful than any earlier model. His Steam Engine was to harness power in a way never achieved before and one that would mark the beginning of the Industrial Revolution. Before the ‘Steam Age’ energy was provided by humans actually pushing and pulling, horses, wind or water – all of which have one main problem: they are controlled by nature, unpredictable, unreliable and not very strong.

The new steam engine could be used to pump the mines clear of water, to speed up production in the cotton mills, the flour mills, the steel factories. It changed the face of the world industrially and socially – papers were printed faster, trains were invented for land and steamships for water. Industry moved from a home-based craft trade to factory-based mass production. James Watt’s steam engine changed the world itself.

You too, can change the world. Make it happen.

Culled from Uju Onyechere’s post on MODELS AND MENTORS INT’L group on Facebook.

Start with Yourself

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Madame C.J. Walker

Madame C. J. Walker was born as Sarah Breedlove to poor farmers Minerva and Owen Breedlove on December 23, 1867 on the shores of the Mississippi River, on a cotton plantation in Delta, Louisiana, USA. Exactly two years after the abolition of slave trade.

She was orphaned at age seven, married at fourteen and became a widow and mother at twenty. She experienced hardships and discrimination typical of the United States at the time. As a result of her parents’ death, she was forced to move from one household to another.

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I Love Diamonds

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Harry Winston, a New York diamond dealer heard about a wealthy Dutch merchant who was looking for a certain kind of diamond to add to his collection.

Winston called the merchant, told him that he thought he had the perfect stone, and invited the collector to come to New York and examine it.

The collector flew to New York and Winston assigned a salesman to meet him and show the diamond. When the salesman presented the diamond to the merchant, he described the expensive stone by pointing out all of its fine technical features.

The merchant listened and praised the stone but turned away and said. “It’s a wonderful stone but not exactly what I want.”

Winston, who had been watching the presentation from a distance, stopped the merchant going out the door and asked, “Do you mind if I show you that diamond once more?” The merchant agreed and Winston presented the stone.

But instead of talking about the technical features of the stone, Winston spoke spontaneously about his own genuine admiration of the diamond and what a rare thing of beauty it was. Abruptly, the customer changed his mind and bought the diamond.

While he was waiting for the diamond to be packaged and brought to him, the merchant turned to Winston and asked, “Why did I buy it from you when I had no difficulty saying no to you salesman?”

Winston replied, “That salesman is one of the best men in the business and he knows more about diamond than I do. I pay him a good salary for what he knows. But I would gladly pay him twice as much if I could put into him something that I have and he lacks. You see, he knows diamonds, but I love them.”

Beloved, do you have passion for what you do? Like Harry Winston, do you love what you do? Can you effectively communicate what you do to others? Positive answers to these questions can take you to the next level.

Culled from Uju Onyechere’s facebook post in MODELS & MENTORS INT’L GROUP

Who is a Salesman?

Salesman

We sell our colleagues, friends and family relations on doing things with us, like going to cinema, eating in a particular restaurant etc.

Parents sell their kids on believing in themselves – and on going to school, eating properly, sleeping at the appropriate time and even cleaning their environment.

Individuals, companies and agencies sell ideas, concepts, thoughts, opinions, and feelings. Teachers sell knowledge and discovery.

Every business, career, occupation, enterprise of any kind, is sales. In fact, every interaction you have with all of the people you come in contact with each day is sales.

These days, people tend to look at salespeople as those who do the dirty job. In fact any vacancy that advertises for a marketing position stands the chance of not having the best brains.

But the truth of the matter is that we all sell. It was Jay Abraham who observed, “The fact is, everyone is in sales. Whatever area you work in, you do have clients and you do need to sell.”

To succeed in selling, there are several things one will have to take into consideration. Here are a few of them. First, attitude is everything. Secondly, you must be enthusiastic. According to Harry Banks, “A sales man minus enthusiasm is just a clerk.”

Thirdly, appearance matters. Ken Kerr pointed out, “Up to 70% of people make buying decisions based primarily upon the visual.” Also, you constantly have to improve on your communication skills. Steve Brown hinted, “Talking is the train that carries the product to the market.”

Beloved, you and I are always selling. So be conscious of every interaction with people. Exactly why Emerson said everybody makes a living selling something.

Remember, the most important sale of the day is what we sell to ourselves.

Culled from Uju Onyechere’s post on facebook group – MODELS & MENTORS INT’L

You Are Who Your Friends Are

It is important to start the new year right and starting with developing your inner circle of friends can lead one to develop very positive habits. These habits in turn can make one successful. I came across this post written by Jack Canfield and enjoyed its content. I hope you learn from it too.

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It’s important to acknowledge the power of a positive attitude. This goes not only for yourself, but also for the people you surround yourself with. 

Attitudes are catchy. Whether they’re positive or negative, they’re rubbing off on you. If you’re around people who complain, judge, spread negative gossip, blame others, and play victim roles, chances are you do, too.

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Let’s learn to live and bless others

Live and love

I just read this blog (http://gbonjubolasanni.wordpress.com/2013/11/13/lets-learn-to-live-and-bless-others/) from a good teacher and I think you can make a difference too. Yes YOU 🙂 .

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Its about spending wisely during the coming holiday season and one of the things that struck me is that we need to get to a level where our lives is not all about us anymore. Even though we have needs, we need to be aware that some people have more pressing needs. Some of us are thinking of the caliber of people we want our kids to school with while some can’t even afford to send their own children to any type of school. Some of us are thinking of balanced diet when some can’t even boast of a meal in a day. Some of us think of designer clothes while some children don’t even have any decent covering for their bodies. We think of living in a better and more serene environment while some kids can’t boast of a proper shelter.

All of these are not bad in themselves as life should continue to get better and better for us all but we need to remember to show love to those who are less privileged for whatever reasons. How else can we do this without giving? Doesn’t the scripture also say it’s more blessed to give than to receive.

I’m a part of an initiative “A thousand smiles” to support an orphanage (Jesus Children Mission Home, Ibadan) that’s been privately run by a family with no regular substantial support before now.

As at today, there are 95 kids in the orphanage with 50 others in people’s homes (adopted, sponsored, etc). This year alone, four of the children gained admission into University of Ibadan, Ibadan and Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife with scores over 250 in the Joint Admissions Matriculation Board exams. They also cleared all their papers in the West African Examination Council exams. It’s amazing!! As a group, we’ve been to the orphanage 3 times and thus observed that they need the following:

1. A coaster bus to take them to/fro schools

2. A building of their own and before then house rents for the home and school buildings for the younger kids

3. Increased cost of feeding to enable well-balanced diets for the growing children

4. Educational scholarships from primary – university education

Our dream is to raise N20 million before December 2013 ends to support the above in a Thanksgiving Variety Show/Special Fund Raising Event on 8 December 2013 where the beautiful talents of the kids in the home will be showcased.

You might not be able to make the event but you can join this cause by making a donation as God gives you the grace.

Like I mentioned to some friends, it’s not actually the amount you’re able to give that matters. It’s more of the spirit behind the giving. N20 million looks like a big feat but if 20,000 of us decide to give N1,000 each, we are there already. If 8,000 of us give N2,500 each, we have it. If 4,000 of us give N5,000 each, we
have it. If 2,000 of us give N10,000 each, we have it and if 1,000 of us give N20,000 each, we have it. Let me not bore you with that, I’m just showing you that it’s possible. I believe you can give something that will put smiles on the faces of these kids who will in turn be able to live life with more vigor.

If you’re interested in being a part of this, kindly send me an email via gbonjute@yahoo.co.uk. As you open doors for others, more doors of great opportunities will be opened to you too.

Thank you.

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